A couple friends from home once suggested an analogy for life based on a pie (A.E. and R.P.). This is my interpretation of their analogy.
The basic idea is that you are a pie… A delicious pie with slices of a variety of sizes and flavors.
Each piece of your pie represents a part of your life that you need fulfilled by a person. Slices could represent any parts of you, emotional, physical, or spiritual.
Not everyone likes every flavor of pie. For example, let’s say your slice of pumpkin pie represents your desire to shoot skeet with your friends. Not everyone likes pumpkin pie (which, in this example, is analogous to clay pigeons), so not everyone will be able to fill that slot. Some of your friends, as much as they like you, won’t be able to satisfy that slice of you, because that slice doesn’t sit so well with them. You can’t usually commission every facet of your life to a single person, so you associate with a group of people who get to come enjoy your dessert.
When people look at you, they don’t always take the time to look at all of your slices. Some only see a small piece. Maybe that small piece so ardently attracts their attention that they never get to see the rest. This fixation may prevent them from getting to know the real you, but that also might be a piece that no one has ever tasted before, even those who have sampled most of your pie.
There are some slices that nobody eats but you. Those are the parts of your life that you prefer to enjoy alone.
To confound the issue, your pie is changing. As we grow we assign new weights to the parts of our lives, and the pie pieces grow larger or smaller accordingly. New slices appear, and some vanish altogether.
I think the pursuit if happiness is the continual restructuring of our lives in such a way as to get as much of the pie eaten as possible.
Thanks to A.E. and R.P. for the inspiration.