I’ve been thinking of making a New Year’s Resolution, and it’s tied in to the purpose of writing this blog.
I want to more openly express my opinion without worrying quite so much about what others think. Recently, I took a “cognitive style self-assessment” administered by a human resources guru, and came back with the result “Introverted Sensing Thinking Judging” (ISTJ). I won’t break down the results piece by piece because the descriptions are rather detailed, but one trait of the ISTJ personality is that they usually only express their opinion if it is directly solicited. This is true for me, but beyond that, when my peers express their opinions I have a tendency to temper my own view in order to avoid conflict; in many cases such aversion results in missed opportunities for thoughtful discussion or self-development.
Phoebe once told me that my housemate dislikes the fact that I have started vocalizing my opinion more often. Whether or not Phoebe’s account of what he said is correct, my initial reaction was pride. I want to confront people more, rather than shrink back and nod my head every time someone disagrees with me. Honestly I feel like I’m being callous to even suggest such a thing, but as Mumbles teaches us, sometimes you do everyone a disservice by pretending to agree.
My resolution, in short, is to grow a new spine for the new year.