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Winning the Love, but Losing the Break-Up

heart_only_interlocked.jpgWe all know that love is a weapon. Accordingly, in the 160th Issue of the Warrior of Light Newsletter, Paulo Cohelo outlines a convention for treating those wounded in love. It’s a short set of rules analogous to the Geneva Conventions, except that it pertains to those wounded by love rather than by weapons.

Most of the “articles” of this convention describe how we should behave when we are hurt in interpersonal relationships, rather than how we should behave if we hurt someone else. For example:

Article 4 – In the case of light wounds, herein classified as small treacheries, fulminating passions that are short-lived, passing sexual disinterest, the medicine called Pardon should be applied generously and quickly. Once this medicine has been applied, one should never reconsider one’s decision, not even once, and the theme must be completely forgotten and never used as an argument in a fight or in a moment of hatred.

The Geneva Conventions primarily govern the humanitarian treatment of non-combatants and prisoners of war (or more broadly, the enemy), so my intuition says that to extend the analogy these conventions of love should govern the treatment of your partner (or ex-partner), and perhaps their friends or family, after you have hurt them. But my intuition assumes that your partner is the one being hurt, that they are the “enemy”, and I don’t think Cohelo makes this assumption.

Rather, he describes how you should behave when you are wounded. The logical conclusion is that the pain you feel when hurt by love is self-inflicted, and a convention for how to cope with and manage such a terrible self-inflicted wound is a brilliant idea.


Posted by on December 5, 2007 in Garbage In, Garbage Out


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Chore Wars


Where I live, we have a negative reinforcement system for making sure that the chores get done. Basically, when you are more than 15 minutes overdue on completing your chores, my housemate sends you a threatening e-mail and tells you that your mother never really loved you. This probably does help make sure the chores get done on time, but I sometimes wonder if there could be a way to encourage everyone to pull their weight through positive reinforcement.

Chore Wars might be just what I was hoping for (link via Penny Arcade). This website allows you to create a middle-earth style RPG character that earns experience points whenever you complete a chore in your home or office. You can join a party with your housemates or officemates and “compete” with them to see who earns experience points and levels the fastest. Characters also have minor levels of customization such as ‘Appearance’ and ‘Natural Talents’ (my natural talent is totally ‘Paying the Bills’). It’s like World of Warcraft for the OCD amongst us.

This system is second only to Phoebe’s suggestion that we earn stickers and candy for doing chores.


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